Room For Your Whole Story: A Grief and Identity Reflection Guide

Hard experiences can change how we see ourselves—and what we believe is possible for our future. This workbook offers space to explore those beliefs without requiring you to find a lesson, feel grateful, or turn your pain into a redemption story.

Created by Tamera “Tami” Valentine, LMFT, LAC, BSN, RN, this 15-page downloadable workbook draws on narrative therapy principles to help you reflect on grief, identity, expectations, and who you are becoming.

Through explanations, examples, and guided reflection prompts, you’ll explore:

• The difference between describing a difficult experience and deciding it defines who you are.

• Where beliefs about strength, responsibility, and recovery come from—and whether they still fit.

• What feels at risk when you question a familiar story about yourself.

• Values, relationships, and experiences that deserve more room in your story.

• Emotional, practical, and professional support that could help.

• A more flexible story you’re willing to try, with room for uncertainty.

Includes generous writing space, a brief EMDR overview, and links to further reading.

Developed as a companion to the For Peyton Podcast’s “We Can Do Hard Things” clinical deep dive, following Tami’s conversation with David Tandberg. You can use it alongside the episode or on its own, at your own pace.

Format: 15-page printable PDF digital download. No physical product will be shipped. For personal use.

Educational resource: Supports reflection and understanding; does not replace individualized mental health care.